Always Ask How They Are Doing

If you find your relationship in such a situation, what can you do? Well, times are when things would get out of hand. You might try all you can, but the situation wouldn’t seem like it’s getting any better, but probably getting worse with more heated arguments. What should do is break the chain. This is when you need to break the negative chain of disagreements, hostility, arguments and hurt. This means that you should turn the atmosphere around from a fighting scene to a playful scene by injecting some humor in a way that would keep the communication going the right way. This means that you should start all over again before those negative elements on the chain would become destructive. Doing this means that you and your partner can still have good time together during your most trying and challenging times. You can also try using a different language. For example, if you notice that you have been putting all blames on your partner, then the time is right to switch from using ’you’ statements to using ’I or me’ statements. And to make things better for you and your spouse or partner, you might want to generalize the situation by using ’we’ statements and feelings. For example, instead of saying You are always thinking about yourself alone, you could say something like I feel hurt when I notice that you are just thinking about yourself alone. Another example could be, instead of saying you are fond of keeping things away from me, you could say I think we should learn to share our burdens with each other.

A Bruise In Your Mind

When you do this, you are not only satisfying your partner’s needs but also satisfying your basic needs. The next time you are having a misunderstanding with your partner, or during your next tense moment, please, be mindful and take care to control this aspect of your communication. Speak calmly and clearly to get your information understood and your partner will respond well. We have just examined how you can make your communication work for you and your partner. It is a learning process, so you need to keep learning continuously. It is important to your relationship. But it is not really easy to do. So do not become stressed if it looks to you like you are not communicating properly in your relationship. Fighting and disagreeing with your partner is an essential aspect of your communication in relationship. Sometimes, you just need to remember that the little things in your relationship can make a big difference. So you do not always need to be scared of the big conversations as long as you have the skills to reach each other and you do not wait for issues to get out of hand. So, you will also need to focus on those little things that can make a change in your relationship, those activities.

See You Soon

It is important to check in on your partner regularly. How was your day? You should check in on them around lunchtime, especially when your workplaces are different. Do so will keep you are your partner synchronized and your communication will keep flowing. You don’t think that it is necessary? Right, it might seem unimportant and even minor, but it is a little thing that can make a huge difference. Trying to avoid discussing your feelings, refusing to give nonverbal cues, shutting down or walking away in the middle of an argument or a discussion is a negative way of disengaging your spouse and leaving misunderstandings unresolved. This habit can infect your relationship in new ways. Granted, there are times you would become overwhelmed and really need a walk. Remember that it’s a moment, so don’t take forever. Consider how you would feel if, while discussing with your partner they were busy checking their phone rather than facing you and showing interest in what you were saying. This is another minor or a little thing that can make a huge difference for you and your partner. Your body language matters a lot during a conversation. It is important to maintain eye contact and show that you are really concerned about whatever your partner is saying.

Don't Run Away

Silent treatment occurs when a partner refuses to communicate with the other partner who may be showing readiness to communicate. In other words, a problem has arisen, and one of the partners is trying to pressure the other through requests and complaints to talk about the problem, but the partner only responds with silence. Some partners use silent treatment as a way of setting boundaries. No, you don’t get to set your boundaries in your relationship through that means. To set your boundaries, you need to talk about them, not keep quiet and expect someone else to read your mind. Silent treatment keeps couples far from resolving their conflicts in marriage. When a partner wants to discuss a problem or any issue but the other withdraws, it can result in more problems such as anger and distress. Communication does not only have to do with talking, it also importantly has a lot to do with listening actively to the speaker. To listen, you must be present in your relationship. You must be attentive to your partner as they speak. So be sure that you are actually in the moment. Partners will always try to get each other’s attention for support, play, feeling, affection, connection, communication, or compassion. Each of these moments presents you with a huge opportunity to create that connection between you and your spouse or partner. So, when your spouse is trying to reach out to you, you have to be there for them. They may want to just talk about small issues like talking about their day with you, or it could be that they have something bigger than that to discuss with you, please, you should not take this away from them. It is their right and your obligation. Does the example above sound familiar to you?