An Isolated Moment In Time

What you need to learn is that a mistake does not determine who you are as a person. It is an isolated moment in time. Hindsight is a wonderful thing, as long as you don’t use it to beat yourself up. If you use words like Should and Could and Must, you are being the kind of unreasonably demanding person most of us would avoid in real life. It sounds like a small step, but try it because it is one that pays quick dividends in terms of how you feel about yourself and rate yourself. As you’re ditching these demand words, remind yourself that most of us do the best we can in any given situation with whatever information we have at that time. Choose one day this week to focus only on the positives. Notice those areas of your life that are working well for you. Notice the skills you’ve acquired when you’ve had to deal with more challenging people/situations/triggers. P is also for Pat on the Back. And sometimes a very steep one! If you have had something bad happen to you or around you in recent times, try to think about how it could have been avoided. Was there anything you could have done differently? This was outside your control.

The Show Must Go On

If you can see, though, that you could have done something differently that would have led to a more positive outcome, then you’ve learned something and taken another step up the Learning Curve. If you now know you could have done something differently and saved yourself a negative experience, think about what you would do differently in the exact same circumstance. Be grateful for this new information. Can you see how just by renaming something we can turn it from an adversary to a friend? Give credit where credit is due. If you make positive changes, give yourself credit for this. Remember, they are on your side really. The brain is a complex and astonishingly brilliant organ. Did you know it is made up of 1.1 trillion cells? No wonder then that it is quite likely we will never know all its secrets or everything about how it works to shape our thinking, who we are and how we respond to life. Neuroanatomy is the study of the anatomy of the brain. Neuroscience is the study of the function of your brain which scientists admit could just be the most amazingly complex object in the universe! If you closed your eyes and spent a minute or two thinking about a thought, what would that look like to you? Close your eyes and imagine feeling sad for a moment. You may ’see’ a color or hear a sad song.

Should I Laugh Or Cry

You may see the petals falling from a dying rose. You may, again, see something in transition but this time something moving away from you and forever lost to you. Perhaps your sad feelings feel heavy. Maybe they are buried under a pile of stones because in truth, you don’t want to feel this way, and that’s fine because who does? Or maybe when I ask you to imagine a feeling of sadness as a function of brain activity, you can see, in your mind’s eye, tiny droplets of water running down a windowpane, as if the whole world were crying with you. The reason I’m asking you to think about thinking for a moment is so you can experience your thoughts, rather than them being something that you may feel you have no control over. It’s true that a thought, especially a negative one, may pop unbidden into your head, but that does not mean you have to go with it. You don’t have to believe it. You don’t have to engage with it. You don’t even have to own it because if it is a thought that is negative about or toward you, then it probably never even came from you in the first place but from someone else who was careless about what they said around you, or even deliberately hurtful. Try it for yourself now. Think of something horrible to say to yourself about yourself. And as soon as you have had that thought, send it on its way.

Share A Dream

The thought has gone. Not only has this part of the brain been shown to be larger in women than in men, but there is a serious evolutionary reason for this discrepancy. It is judgemental, she says. It is the part of the brain that monitors every social interaction you have, and so is the part that tells you you’re too fat or too old and it goes on red alert when the feedback you are getting from others isn’t going so well. Women’s brains have also developed with a more acute sensitivity to the emotions of others than the brains of men, and the key reason for these differences, is that women have been built to be able to read and immediately respond to the needs of a nonverbal infant. In other words, you need to be able to monitor, assess, and read the clues your baby gives so you can work out whether to change a nappy or offer a bottle. How you interpret feedback from others will also depend on where you are in your menstrual cycle and the hormone surges that regulate ovulation and menstruation. There’s something about the menstrual cycle that puts your self in a bad light at least for a few days every month. About 90 percent of women feel some kind of increased emotionality two to four days before their period starts, where they’re crying over dog food commercials. I wanted to get a message to girls who are slipping down some slippery slope and get a safety net under them, she says. These are known as the Real Self, the Ideal Self and the Dreaded Self. Tune in for a moment to this concept and see if you can identify your own Real Self, Ideal Self, and Dreaded Self.