Reward Yourself For Your Successful Endurance

Develop the skill of discipline by starting easy to achieve habits that you can stick to, building the difficulty incrementally. This is a core teaching in schools, something they call frame control. A conversational frame is like the context. If I ask you are you a good person? and you answer yes, you’ve also declared I am higher status for the same reason. Here’s an example how The Question Game might pan out between you and a friend. Do I look like a rule breaker? Someone will slip up! Practice feeling discomfort, and acting anyway. Start with small levels of discomfort and work your way up. Reward yourself for your successful endurance. Engage women with the intention of finding things you can playfully disagree with. Your goal is to challenge women in any way you possibly can. Anything other than agreeing, relating, empathising. The true soldier fights not because he hates what is in front of him, but because he loves what is behind him.

The Beat Of Your Drum

In the penultimate scene of Braveheart you see Mel Gibson’s character William Wallace laying on his back after having endured the most horrific torture imaginable, without uttering a single sound. To him, this cloth represented his entire reason for being, his meaning, his purpose. We have just talked at length about the Warrior’s ability to endure great suffering in order to achieve an outcome, but there is only so much suffering a Warrior can take before he loses the will to go on. The fiercest Warriors need deep meaning to stay focused on their goal, and that meaning is always love. Love has to exist in his heart. Without love, the Warrior turns into a masochist, or even worse, a sadist, laying waste to everything he comes across. He surmised that the reason some could go on while others could not, was the meaning they associated with the suffering they endured. Men could suffer only as much as that pain had meaning to them. In other words, those that had something to live for could endure so much more than those that felt they did not. After the war he devised a type of therapy called Logotherapy which helped suicidal people find meaning in their lives, and so give them the will to keep on living. The Lover is the why of life. This is the primal energy pattern of vividness, aliveness and passion.

Built To Last

While the Warrior is an ascetic, distancing himself from his emotions, refusing himself pleasure and gratification, the Lover dives headfirst into life, experiencing everything it has to offer, sucking the marrow from the bone. The lover is the archetype of joy, passion, happiness, celebration, and play. The Magician exists in the future, weaving fantasies about what could be, the Warrior is present, but only as much is required to perform his actions that will deliver him towards his future goal. The Lover exists right now, in this very moment, and nowhere else. There is nowhere to get to. No goal to be achieved. The purpose is love, merriment, laughter and sensual experience. Any happy memory we have is always created by The Lover. He is the only archetype that truly lives and gives us anything worth remembering. We don’t read and write poetry because it’s cute. We read and write poetry because we are members of the human race. And the human race is filled with passion.

Give Up the Ghost

And medicine, law, business, engineering, these are noble pursuits and necessary to sustain life. But poetry, beauty, romance, love, these are what we stay alive for. In a hard world full of injustice, pain and suffering, the Lover reminds us of the joy of being alive. The demands of the world take us away from joy and play, from appreciation and wonder, and the Lover brings as back. Because of this, the Lover is a very powerful archetype. A man channelling the Lover in his fullness is highly attractive. In a room full of strategizers, worriers and complainers he stands out like a diamond in the sand. His sheer pleasure at being alive, right now, in this very moment, with her, is incredibly intoxicating to a woman. The men that come to me who, although they wish to achieve some future outcome and are willing to learn the necessary skills and work towards their goal, still seem to enjoy the process and are pretty happy with their life at this moment, these men always get the best responses from women. You can have all the technique and skill in the world, but if it isn’t all used against a backdrop of joy, fun, appreciation and wonder for life, then it all comes across a bit cold, robotic and empty. Women are incredibly perceptive, and they feel when a man is operating completely from his mind. The Magician speaks from his mind, his words vibrating at a higher frequency, usually resulting in his voice sounding higher pitched. The Lover, on the other hand, speaks from his body. His voice comes out through his chest, with a lower vibration and tone. When he speaks a woman feels his sensuality, his presence, his attention and his emotions. The Lover is the archetype of feeling and emotion. A man in touch with his Lover is in touch with his feelings. As well as feeling the joys of life, he also deeply feels it’s grief, both his and of the world’s. It is precisely this capacity to feel his grief, and not hide from it, ignore it or suppress it, that gives the Lover his sensitivity for all of life’s pleasures. Women are creatures of emotion, and when a man communicates with this language, she feels deeply connected with him. The Lover is also forever curious about the mysteries of the world. He is always fascinated, amazed, and in a state of wonder. He never concludes that he has experienced everything that can be experienced. Every moment is a new moment, every event an opportunity to experience something unique.