Signs That Ego Is Hurting Your Relationship

The true self is premised on love. These qualities of ego usually distort our power of reasoning and our ability to make the right decisions. They allow money and status to feed their ego, after all that is what the society is about. The ego self or false self encourages you to be attached to the false idea that you have lost touch with your true self. These qualities are innate within us and they help us to make the best decisions whenever we are faced with trouble or difficulty because the true self understands what we need to be truly happy. Your true self creates a much stronger pillar or base for your life. The true self is the source of personal growth and the reason to be optimistic about how life turns out for you, even in your darkest moments of confusion and doubts. It comes from within with solutions to most of your crises. It is the real you, your true self, that deserves your love and attention. Now that you know all of this, the next time you are having a conversation, try to separate your false self from your true self so that you know who is talking. Remember, it is your true self that deserves to be fed your love and attention, and not your false self. You should work to overcome your false self.

Stuck Inside A Cloud

Your ego is constantly competing with your true self to control you. You have seen what your false self can do as a controller. The ego has a huge part it plays in our lives. Whether you like it or not, it’s a part of you. It develops to protect you from your reality, or when your reality becomes challenging, giving you mixed messages. Sadly, many of us try to avoid talking about it, and yes, for a good reason. Be that as it may, when it is threatened, it shows up as unconscious reactions. That explains why tend to lash out at others in defense of our ego When it is hurt, or when we are triggered. Being triggered is something that happens from time to time in relationships. We usually have to face tense moments in our relationships. During those moments, our ego tends to creep in or show its face. So now, let us examine how to identify ego in our relationships.

Looking For Changes

An egocentric is more interested in being right about everything all the time. For them, being right is very much related to a sense of worthiness. This means that an egotistic partner, who would not be willing to let go of their ego, will say and even do anything that they can say or so just to be right. How does this affect their relationship? An unchecked desire to be right at all times, and at any cost can lock any possibility of happiness in your relationship and damage your relationship with your partner. The partner obsesses over their needs and will do whatever it takes to get their needs satisfied. This can be a sign that your relationship is being negatively affected by your ego. Do not allow your relationship to fall into this situation. If you notice this sign, you should try to show more concern, toward your partner. Ego can create jealousy in our heads. For example, what do you think about whenever your spouse or partner goes out to meet with friends? If you allow yourself to become overwhelmed by such thoughts, you can convince yourself that your spouse or partner is obviously cheating. By the time your partner comes back home, you are already in a ’ready to fight’ mode, there will be an argument which may leave the two of you especially your partner frustrated. Your partner will be the most affected by the frustration if your thoughts are not true.

Another Brick In The Wall

If the pattern repeats, your spouse may become resentful, and if left unchecked, they may want to end the relationship with you. If you find yourself constantly falling into this situation, know that ego could be running the show in your relationship. Ego and jealousy can be destructive. In time, this inner critic craftily becomes an outer spokesperson whose gospel we begin to believe and also preach to other people who we believe do not meet up to the standard. Eventually, we begin to judge and criticize other people, including our partner, always telling them that they are bad at what they do. When you notice this happening, you should know that those words are coming from a place of insecurity. So, learn to ship from being judgmental and critical to being compassionate and considerate of others and what they do. When it comes to placing blames in relationships, it is often easier to see the faults in our partners than in ourselves, and those who are quick to point the first finger are usually the ones to blame. But when your ego tells you that everyone but you is wrong, it is easier to want to stand on that. This is a destructive dance in which both the wife, for example, is waiting to see a change in the husband, and the husband is also waiting to see the change in the wife. The problem now is that no change will take place if both partners are waiting to see the change in the other. If you are guilty of this habit, it is a sign that ego could be at work in your relationship trying to do the damage you don’t need. Competition in a relationship occurs when each partner in the relationship is working separately just to be better than the other. But, competition in a relationship is bad when it becomes unhealthy. This type of competition leads to envy which in turn leads to discontent and ultimately results in resentments in the relationship. It means that you are more important than your partner in your relationship. Ok, husbands, it is your turn now.