The Fact That You Already Have A Strong Connection

A common occurrence for you in a social situation is having the attention of a woman for a period of time, making what you think is progress, only to lose her to a man that seems a lot duller than you. If sensualists are ever successful with women, it is nearly always in the early part of their life when success, career, and money isn’t too much of a deciding factor, and the effects of addiction and instant gratification isn’t yet visible. Older sensualists that have not developed any balancing masculine archetypes, however, are usually not a pleasant sight to behold. Since healthy, mature men tend not to dwell in the pure sensualist’s world for too long, wanting instead to strive onwards in life, sensualists tend to try to infiltrate younger and younger social groups to justify their static lifestyle. This results in the Sensualist feeling more and more alienated the older he grows. The Peacemaker is the feminine aspect within us that is responsible for connection, empathy, and communion. Men with strong access to their Peacemaker can walk among women as a friend and ally because they speak the same language. Your peacemaker allows you to walk among women as their friend and confidant, but your Wildman means you are a wolf in sheep’s clothing. Without the other archetypes to help you, then, the only chance you have of achieving success with women is to be cunning and opportunistic, waiting for the perfect time to strike where the possibility of rejection or resistance is at it’s lowest. Since the Peacemaker’s power is in adapting to people so as to be liked, to connect, he is like a chameleon, always shifting to fit the environment. When you hear women complain about men, who hide their real intentions and have ulterior motives, the Opportunists of the world are usually to blame for them. Now, if you have identified with the Opportunist, you have the foundations of a very strong attractive personality.

The Last Resort

The fact that you already have a strong connection to your Wildman means that you have a big head start ahead of most men, and need to make sure that you take advantage of this. In a world full of soft, open men, all striving to connect, to understand, to empathise, to feel, to love women, the Closed attractive personality types are a refreshing contrast. If you’re ever unsure how attracted to you a woman is, you can normally ascertain this from how much she is investing in you, whether through her speech or through her actions. The Magician is the archetype of the mind, and the Trickster, the archetype of roleplay. Both, then, are disconnected from the world. Both are unavailable to other people in a real, authentic way. This removed perspective offers you a unique and powerful position, though. While others get caught up in the ebb and flow of social turbulence, you can remain unaffected and unreactive. Nothing can hurt you behind your protective barrier. This coldness and distance, in a world of reactive and heated men, peaks the interest of women who cross your path. Your detachment is oddly refreshing, serving as a challenge for women to overcome. With the Magician’s intellect and the Trickster’s sense of fun, the Performer has a lot of value to offer social situations.

Taking The Sun From My Eyes

This doesn’t go unnoticed by women, whose attention is peaked by your popularity, then captivated with your wit, jokes, knowledge and stories. At your best you are a confident, charismatic, charming, life and soul of the party that everyone is drawn to. The Performer’s potential popularity, however, sometimes doesn’t help him with women. The Performer is the only attractive personality type that finds himself in the frustrating situation of having female attention, but being unable to do anything with it. His detachment from women and the rest of the world is driven by his fear that, beneath the veneer of charisma, he is dull, uninteresting, unattractive, weird, and unlikeable. This fear drives him always to be the witty one in the group, the funny one, the intellectual one. He craves the constant validation of people laughing at his jokes and being impressed with his quick mind. This translates directly into the man that just can’t stop telling jokes, or the man that never actually takes an interest in learning about you. A man that is never curious about your life, your passions, your interests. A man that strikes you as being arrogant and egotistical, only seeming to care about himself. Don’t be fooled by this outer performance, though. Performers, more than any other attractive personality type, crave intimacy and connection.

Cross My Heart

They are just stuck operating from their fear of being vulnerable. The women who have the intuition to sense this and can push past the Performer’s resistance, dodging his witty comebacks and jokes, to get to real man beneath it all, will achieve what most women cannot. The Performer, then, tends to end up with women that choose him. Instead, he floats through life, from joke to joke, from witty remark to funny one liner, until a woman takes enough interest to commit herself to staying with him long enough for him to lower his guard and show his true colours. Women like a joke and they love being transported to another world through role play, but after all the fun and games are over, nothing beats real human connection. If you are the Performer, a lot of this will have resonated with you. You will feel the sadness in your heart that your emotional isolation and disconnection has brought you. You will know the frustration of being popular, but feeling lonely nonetheless. Instead of resigning yourself to the idea that women just don’t understand you, that you’re just too eccentric for people, or that you are too special and unique, you need to come to the realisation that your disconnection and isolation has nothing to do with any of that. You are hiding behind your fear.