Harnessing Influence Over Others

I used to hate Christmas. Truly, hate with a passion the Christmas time of year. To the point that I refused to buy presents for my family. I didn’t want to buy presents because I usually couldn’t afford them. This left me feeling embarrassed, frustrated, and depressed each December. Do you notice the belief here? Don’t worry I’ll explain that further later. Let me give you some context here. I was just experiencing my third failed business venture. That’s right, three in a row over the course of 5 years. The fifth year in a row of living on minimum wage as an Entrepreneur who was hustling to become the next Steve Jobs. I was in debt, had no money, felt as though I had no friends. What’s worse was my wife had to find a job just so we could pay the bills.

If You Believe

This started my quest to learn from my mistakes and understand what I was missing. Little did I know that my subconscious was silently sabotaging my success. Have you ever felt like this? What I didn’t realize is that I had become people illiterate. I was unable to see people’s true intentions. I only focused on the good intentions and big picture that I failed to understand the details. I thought someone else would handle that and take care of it for me because they wanted to be part of something awesome. We live in a world where people crave connection, yet we have become people illiterate. We are illiterate in the ways of how to authentically connect with each other in conversation. We are illiterate in how to read body language to understand true intentions, desires, and emotions. This results in misunderstanding our own gut feelings. We are illiterate in how to understand linguistic patterns because we aren’t listening to what is being said. We’re more focused on trying to get our point across that we missed the hidden meaning in the words used.

Don't Worry About A Thing

We are illiterate in our vocabulary. A grade 6 child is 11 years old for reference. Our lack of words to explain emotion and feelings causes communication breakdowns. Our failure to authentically connect with others has created a lonely world, where people are failing to get their core needs satisfied. This leaves us on the hamster wheel of chasing instant gratification in the hopes it will satisfy our needs of belonging to a tribe. I can remember making many new year’s resolutions using these words. I’ve got to do whatever it takes to make sure I don’t feel alone and aren’t broke by the end of next year. This is never going to happen to me again. Notice the beliefs and patterns in these words? I’ll explain that more later. Just take a mental note. Yet, most of us fail to understand the rules of the game. Resulting in communication breakdowns and creating beliefs aka human programming that keeps us stuck on the hamster wheel of life.

All Together Now

Do you know people who are on a relationship hamster wheel? You know the ones that experience that relationship rollercoaster of love, passions, and excitement followed by distrust, hate, and anger. We all deal with this at times personally, or professionally. I know I’ve been on this hamster wheel with different personal and business partnerships. After my third failed business venture I took a minute to assess why this was happening to me. It was then I realized that I was seeking a specific type of personality to partner with, even though this personality type created conflict within me. There would be a few months of this is awesome, we’re going to conquer the world! Then the communication breakdowns would start to occur. The wheels would start to fall off the bus and the reality of the business would set in. We would miss performance milestones and this feeds the downward death spiral. All because of miscommunication and failure to understand how our personality types impact the action and style of action we take. This would leave me asking the big question of how did I make the same mistake again? My Dad told me that it’s only a mistake if you don’t learn the lesson from your actions. I was committed to learning the lessons from my business failures so I didn’t repeat the same mistakes again. When you realize that you’ll replay every conversation in your mind and see all the things you previously missed in the heat of the moment. The body is always communicating our true desires, intentions, and truth. The problem is it’s speaking the primitive animal language that we’ve long forgotten and replaced with emojis. It’s broken into three categories. Hacking Personality. Mastering Persuasion. That requires you to answer these two questions right now. I know that you won’t have the same goals and desires that I do. But I do know that you have your own goals, desires, and dreams. To which I want to help you achieve. Thanks for joining me on this journey. I look forward to getting to know you. Let me know how I can help you achieve your goals. Your wealth and success will be determined by your ability to captivate and lead focus. Without that, you’re destined to follow others and get frustrated when you don’t get what you want out of life. I admit that I find myself constantly refreshing my emails every few minutes. Or subconsciously loading social media to see how many notifications I’ve got. My email addiction gets sent into overdrive every time I get an online sale notification of a new payment. It’s a sensation like nothing else. In fact, I’d rather experience that than any other drugs or alcohol. The problem is you can be people ignorant, yet captivate focus for your 15 seconds of fame in today’s world of instant gratification. But fail to lead that focus to something meaningful like generating a sale. We even have a world of social media influencers whose entire business model is built around harnessing influence over others.