A Wonderful Way To Speak To Your Inner Self

I have noticed one of the most effective ways for forgiving is to use affirmations. That means it is an action. They are a wonderful way to speak to your inner self and to guide your inner child. You simply speak the same words to yourself every day until your consciousness begins to believe them and act out of that truth. In a sense, affirmations help you to replace the voice of shame in your core with a new, hopeful voice. The human psyche is very weak because it begins to believe anything it hears over and over again. Conversely, this is also a strength if you use this mechanism for good. It is a very basic, but powerful mechanism. I encourage you to try it! I forgive myself for not being able to be present for my needs as a child. I remind myself that I was very vulnerable and was unable to advocate for myself and my emotional needs. Now that I know better, I do better. I am here for you now [insert your name] and will always stand up for you whenever anyone treats me with anything less than love or respect.

Deadly Sins

I forgive myself for buying into the lies that I am unworthy. I remind myself once again that I was just a child, and I didn’t know any better. Now that I know better, I refuse to give in to the lies. I am loved, I am worthy, and I am me. I forgive myself for accepting their pain as mine and I move on now to seek the truth of who I am without the lies. I forgive [insert close relation, acquaintance, or friend] for every time they hurt me, abused me, neglected me, rejected me and abandoned me. I realize now they were hurt people who were unable to love me as I deserve. I forgive them for their actions and their words, and I release myself from any trauma bond I may have developed with them. I am made for healthy, secure relationships and I will find them as I continue to do the work to heal from my pain and move on to a happier future. I let go of everything that happened to me. I accept that it happened, but I do not hold on to it. My pain and my trauma are not my identity.

One Step Closer

Now that I know better, I will protect myself whenever people say or do things that could traumatize me. I refuse to allow another person to share their pain with me. My inner self is important, and I will protect him/her with strong boundaries so that my identity is not poisoned by others. I forgive the world for not being there for me when I needed it. I forgive the world for leaving me in my pain as a child and turning a blind eye to my plight. I forgive the world for all those dark nights when the pain hurt so much I could not sleep. I forgive the people around me who did not spot that I needed help or who did not care enough to try to help me. I know that my experiences are not indicative of the full reality of life on Earth. I implore my inner self to open him/herself up to what life has to bring because, even if life is bad sometimes, it is also really good and joyful at other times. I forgive the world for not being there for me now, but I accept that it has also brought me healing at this moment. Instead of focusing on the negative and obsessively dwelling on my pain, I lean into my healing today, choosing to focus on the new beginnings that my future has to offer. Don’t underestimate the effect of human influence.

I Don't Believe A Word

The people around childhood you influenced you to believe that you are worthless. You will have noticed a pattern by now, that the same mechanisms used to hurt you are the ones you use to heal. This time, surround yourself with people who influence you to believe you are invaluable and loved. Rather than being around a person who verbally puts you down, choose a person who verbally uplifts you even when others put you down. Surround yourself with people who know how to love themselves and others in healthy ways. You will notice that your affirmations will sink in quicker and better when others around you corroborate their message. The voice of love stemming from others and yourself will then slowly but surely become your voice of truth. Take time for yourself to simply sit with your pain. As you begin to release your pain you might find it very overwhelming. If you need to, take a few days or weeks to validate your pain. Pain is like any other physical wound. Before you can clean it up or dress it, you need to expose it to light and air. Follow your body’s prompting on how to let your pain out. Facing your pain is only half the battle. The next stage is for you to fix the damage and chaos left behind by your pain. To heal from the spiritual damage of abuse, you must forgive yourself, forgive those who hurt you and forgive the world. You need to forgive yourself because, although you were not the person who originally abused you, you did, however, begin to reinforce your worthlessness to yourself. Forgiveness is a great tool for moving from insecure attachments to a secure attachment. One of the most effective ways for forgiving others is to use affirmations. Affirmations help you speak to your inner self and to guide your inner child. The only difference is that this time you are the person loving yourself. It is a simple concept as old as humanity itself. If you fall out of love with your spouse, you are encouraged to act as though you are still very much in love with them.