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Do the extra everything to exceed even your own expectations. We continue to refine as we commit to staying true to becoming our Best Ever You. That’s all fun language for action, and we’re going to take some amazing action. It is here as we take action and really start that we succeed or we don’t follow through. With those areas we may make adjustments, of course, but as I’ve used these points of change, usually I see one or the other. Be committed and be 100 percent in. Be consistent and disciplined. See through ambiguity. Be okay with not knowing how it will turn out. When other people have stopped, it is your cue to work harder. Review your goals daily or more if you need to. Get creative and have fun. 
Born Under A Bad Sign
Tune out the noise, gain more momentum. What do you love to do? What do you want to do? When you get up in the morning, what motivates you? What are you thinking about? Fostering positive momentum can be very useful when implementing change. There’s a trend here, of course. These are all solitary activities. Sure, I enjoyed playing sports, too, just as much as any young boy. My sports of choice were baseball and basketball. Yet even for these team sports, I really enjoyed the solitary time I would spend practicing. I would create entire basketball brackets and play against myself in the driveway to determine who would advance, simply by alternating who had possession whenever I would miss a shot. Baseball wasn’t much different. My daily practice consisted of throwing a tennis ball against the chimney on our house for hours at a time. It was no surprise that I found solace in solitary activities. I had a lot going for me, it seemed. Courage Doesn't Always Roar
But as hard as I tried, I had trouble talking to people I didn’t know that well. I couldn’t look coaches in the eye, preferring instead to stare down at my shoes. I was out of my element, out of my comfort zone, and I felt like I didn’t belong on the bench alongside my teammates. I was an average player, but my lack of confidence proved to be my largest obstacle. I knew I needed to change and wanted to change. But I felt immobilized. I didn’t know how to change. And then, one day, it just started to click for me. I was the runner who kept hiding. One video quickly led to more, and I found myself having fun with it all. I started to embrace my individuality and began feeling more confident in choosing to do things because I wanted to do them, not because I felt that I had to do them. Looking back, in three pivotal instances I took this message to heart, finding the courage deep within to put myself out there. Don't Walk Away
I had the privilege of being a senior while my younger brother was one of the freshmen on this team, and I branched out of my comfort zone to do something unexpected. Why would you want to do that? was an easy question to answer. I wanted to play basketball on a team with my brother. It would be the only opportunity I would ever have to play on the same high school basketball team as my brother. I seized the moment. Two years later at Colgate University, the change in me progressed even more. I wrote and published my first novel, Access Point, by far one of the scariest things I have done. I travel across the country for work as a cybersecurity expert, and I have spoken at conferences halfway around the world. I volunteer as a Little League coach and take extra time to instill confidence in the kids on my team, so hopefully they can recognize their own unique abilities far sooner than I did. For me, change wasn’t instantaneous like in the movies. My transformation was far more gradual. But if I could change one more thing, I’d go back in time. However, minds play more games with that simple action than any of us would ever care to probably consider. The health industry would not be such a moneymaker if that weren’t the case. Generally, I help my clients implement a series of small changes for their best success. Let Your Best Self Filter Through. One of the best ways to make a change is to implement small daily changes and hold them for thirty days. Make a change for thirty days. Keep going with Month 1’s change, add a second change, and make that one for thirty days. Keep going with Month 1’s change and Month 2’s change. Here is an example based on one of my clients. Weighing 287 pounds, Susan admitted she had lost track of her value system. It was an easier state to be in than one that would require honestly examining herself and maintaining these habits that were destroying any shred of contentment and pride. To get to those moments required truth and to be in touch with how Susan was really feeling. She knew her goal and how she dreamed of being and feeling, but she couldn’t understand why, if she could see that, she couldn’t string together consistent days of change to produce the results she was seeking. Her goal was to remove at least 100 pounds, and she had no idea where to begin. I was her secret best friend, rooting for her success, because I knew she could do it in what I was hearing from her. She just needed to make a few small changes to produce the results. Susan was used to checking in at New Year’s for resolutions that had failed time and time again. Susan released those 100 pounds over the course of a year, by aligning her heart, truths, and energy. Most of the work we did together was in the realm of her value system and thinking from her heart, instead of her brain.