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Look at where you struggle. Perhaps you are shy, impatient, abrupt, sarcastic, withdrawn, quiet. Where did that come from? Pick just one thing to change, find its alter ego, and invest in that. Work it until you find your unique way to flip it. Keep doing that with each of your struggle patterns one by one. They usually end up being your strengths in disguise. Look at your level of ambition or lack thereof and ask, Where did this come from? Is it a multigenerational pattern? Was there an event that created it? Do you find yourself shutting down or shrinking when challenged, or do you use challenges as clues to opportunities for growth, exploration, engagement, and enhancing your ability to relate? Build better business relationships to get ahead. Look for the positive ways you relate to others. Perhaps you are a good listener, collaborator, teammate, slogger. Whatever it is, grow it with all your might and make that another differentiator for you. You are building your value. Be proud of it and champion it. 
The Best Thing About Me
Get superbly good at it. It might seem small to you, but it pays large dividends. Maximizing what you have and who you are is a universal freebie. Learn to relate up as well as you relate peer to peer or peer to juniors. Develop a broad swathe of internal and external stakeholders. If you don’t know something, ask. If you do know something, share. If you shy away from either, ask yourself where that came from. If not, then what small aspect of that tendency can you shift that allows you to move beyond your current bandwidth and capability? Explore your frustrations around your work and your work relationships. If you are frustrated, chances are high that your business mindset is too small or you’ve outgrown your current role. Your irritability is telling you clearly that something wants to be completed so it can rest and something else is trying to emerge for you. Your destiny is to rise and shine from the inside out. Deep In The Hole
To feel good about yourself and life. To relax and feel blessed and complete and always ready for more. Because more is what you are capable of and what you were born to create. In this technological, wired age, opportunities for success abound. Maddie Bradshaw made her first million by age thirteen turning bottlecaps into jewelry and gym locker decorations. What’s next for them? Success in material terms creates a whole lot of freedom, but money is not the entire story by a long shot. They want meaningful adventures that will let them feel like they have made it as an authentic human being. They want to feel connected to life and other people, united with their lineage and the universe in profound and mystical ways. They come to me because they want to expand their definition of success and enjoy family, have a deeper purpose, be healthy, and above all feel good about their entire being. I have a billionaire client, Ralph, who came to me saying he wanted success. When I asked what that meant to him, he said he’d been so busy making money to ensure that his family was safe, he’d not had time to enjoy or share it. Success for him meant being able to put down his computer, be with his family, and not feel guilty about not working eighteen hours a day. Why Remind Me?
And yet, like so many driven people, he was afraid that if he stopped working it would all go away. His father had been shamed by his inability to accumulate wealth, and Ralph had promised himself that he would never be shamed that way. Although his father had been the spark for change in the family systemic pattern of poverty, Ralph’s accumulation of wealth had driven a wedge between them, and the connection Ralph yearned for wasn’t possible. I pointed out that systemically when a child surpasses their parent, it can leave some parents feeling out of order and inadequate. Because of you, Dad, . His father could celebrate the son he had given birth to and know that he had done something right. He could take his full place, and his son could take his own place and finally lay down the family burden of shame. The whole family is currently an inspiring example of service to the planet. Success is expanding its definitions through them as they all discover how to make magic with what they’ve created. Success means vastly different things to different people. It also means different things at different times and stages of life. So, the first step toward success is defining and redefining what it means to you now. For some it is safety, for others health, and for others success centers on career, spirituality, or relationships. But everyone’s definition is wonderfully unique. I had one client define success as having beautiful, fresh flowers in every room of her house all year round. Unresolved patterns of failure imprinted on the family system can sabotage your success very quickly. The newspaper tabloids are full of stories about rising stars full of passion suddenly committing suicide or becoming drug addicts or losing their money. They had it all and blew it! Yes, they had it all, including unexamined systemic sentences and patterns that ensnared them in ancient history, overwhelming their fabulous lives, sabotaging their incredible futures, and telling them subconsciously why they weren’t worthy. Until and unless all the old baggage is seen and resolved, many a successful launch and phenomenal career is destined to tank right at the point of achievement. You’ll know you’ve hit what real success means to you when you find yourself nodding and smiling like a Cheshire cat, feeling the entire world sparkle. Anything less won’t cut it. You have that feeling, grow it! Don’t ever let it go. That sparkly smiley feeling is your compass pointing you toward success. Any Debbie Downer voices. To whom is that resistance to success tied?